Wednesday, March 27, 2013

The Single Guy Hesitates

There's an old proverb that says, "He who hesitates is lost." No one knows this more than the Single Guy.

Because that's just what he does. It's his modus operandi. He hesitates. He thinks. Then he over thinks. Then he misses out.

It's the definition of insanity, doing something over and over again while expecting different results. But people do that sort of thing all the time, right? Maybe not everyone.

But here's how it goes: The Single Guy meets a girl. He spends some time getting to know this girl. This time period varies. Could be days. Could be months. But then, at some point, he decides she's worth the risk of a broken heart. What he doesn't realize is that he's already too late.

More often than not, he's too late due to the fact that he's managed to find himself in the legendary Friends' Zone. The F.Z. can be a fun place to be, as long as one is perfectly content with simply being friends. Although, there's nothing simple about being just friends.

Usually, when there's a Friends' Zone involved, there's a good chance that one of the friends will have stronger feelings than the other one will. This has happened to the Single Guy. A couple times. Okay, more than a couple times. But that's because he's all the time hesitating. And he's a really good friend.

But there are other consequences to hesitation, aside from the Friends' Zone. Namely, there's the missed opportunity. While waiting around and getting to know a girl, a guy can end up letting her slip right through his fingers. It's easy to let it happen, too.

Part of the reason the Single Guy chooses to hesitate more often than not is because he wants to get to know someone before taking a leap of faith. For someone with the vast array of trust issues that the Single Guy has, it is a significant leap of faith. But then he figures out, she's pretty awesome. Unfortunately, someone else has figured it out too.

Once again, he who hesitates is lost.

1 comment:

  1. But when you hesitate, you often wai to find the perfect person.

    My mom would get so upset that I was 28 years old and still not in a long term relationship. "You should be married by now", she'd say.

    When I was 28, I met Andy and knew he was the one.

    Now my mom tells me that I was right to wait and be patient. I was waiting for the right one.

    You are just doing the same thing. :)