Sunday, June 07, 2009

Soul Mates

I don't believe in soul mates. I really just don't think they exist.

I think it's a term full of romantic nonsense that people who like to watch Dawson's Creek enjoy throwing around as if it means something. People end up with who they're attracted to, that's all there is to it.

I believe that God places certain people in our lives for certain reasons. Many of those people, we may not understand the reasons that they've come or gone, but for better or worse, they've affected how we think or act on something.

Now, I'm not an advocate of predestination. I'm a big fan of free will as a part of my theological thinking. So I also believe that it's up to us to decide with whom we fall in love, to whom we're attracted, and when and if we ever get married. God has a plan and a design, and our decisions don't mess with that design, but He still allows us to make those choices.

The idea of a soul mate just takes away any of those decisions.

To me, when someone uses the term soul mate, it just sounds like an excuse. It's an excuse to get out of the lousy relationship you're already in. I mean, if you're unhappy with your marriage or your significant other, then that person is obviously not your soul mate, right? Or if you're ridiculously infatuated with someone of the opposite sex who barely knows you're alive, almost to the point of stalking them, it's okay, 'cause that person's your soul mate, right?

Okay, that second example is a little dumb. I mean, if there were such a thing as soul mates, wouldn't the object of that person's infatuation be just as infatuated, if he/she were in fact that person's soul mate?

But the first one is right on. And that was sarcasm up above. That's kind of hard to convey in text. We need a new sarcastic punctuation. I digress.

Soul mates don't exist. So don't go looking for one. It's ridiculous to think that out of 6.5 billion people in the world, there's only one out there for you. What if that one person lives on the opposite side of the globe? Does that mean you both spend your lives alone and miserable until one of you finally decides to take that trip to Indonesia that you've been putting off 'til retirement? I don't think so.

Try to make the best of the people that God brings into your lives. Trust me, He knows what He's doing.


  1. soul mates exist in some other dimension i believe.

    but none the less i think i agree with your view!! :)

    Happy SS

  2. actually... they say that there are thousands of soul mates out their for every one... not just one.

  3. I think you are right on many levels. The idea of soul mate seems to me to be a modern excuse for romance. But yeah I reckon if there is such a thing there would be more than one. People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a life time.

  4. the idea of a soul mate has been around for hundreds of yrs.. I'm sure since the beginning of time.

  5. Well ya gave me something ta ponder and thats a good thing........

    By the way who is this GOD person ya speak of?

  6. Far be it from me to argue! Enjoyed the read...

  7. you have a valid argument and i can agree. still i think of soulmate on an intuitive level..

  8. Your theory works well if soul mates and love get tangled up AND you believe that there is just one soul mate.

    Unfortunately, I think many believe that love and romance and soul mate mean much the same thing by proxy.

    Certainly an interesting post.

  9. I know what you mean. Thats the treason, I took the prompt in another direction. There can more than many with whom we connect not just one person.

    stuck in time

  10. I don't know for sure. I think you are right that God brings people into our lives for a reason. Maybe the person He brings to you to marry is supposed to be your soul mate.

    I also think that you make a decision everyday to stick it out with that person and to work at things. Life goes in cycles and sometimes they are hard. Those are the times you hang on waiting fo the ferris wheel to come back around to the top :)